28/01/2012

How to Say No to a Girl

It happens quite often that when a girl approaches you to buy tickets for a movie, for which you had stood in the queue for over an hour, you realize you can't say no her because she's a 'girl'.

Girls are inherently soft spoken and you obviously cannot afford to offend them. However, you tend to get carried away by their benign colloquial words only to find yourself in a predicament more than often.

Saying no to a girl can be a tedious task. You must acknowledge that irrespective of commitments to work and family, there are moments when you go to great lengths to help her because you cannot say no to her.

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Listen to Her First

First and foremost it is vital to listen to her request carefully. One has the habit of saying 'yes' even before her question gets over. It is advisable not to mollycoddle in a bid to win her charm. One has to adhere to myriad ways to deny a girl without offending her.

Try Diplomacy

This is easier said than done. If you have a girl asking for a favor then you could reciprocate, “I would have loved to help you, but I've have certain prior appointments to cater”. This is an excuse which can help you buy just about enough time to delude the question.

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Feign Ignorance

Sometimes, a phrase like, “I don't much about it” can work like backdoor from such situations as you would no longer be obligated to take up her problem. Such problems help in abating the question because of lack of knowledge.

Be Straightforward

If the former two excuses don't work and the girl remains adamant, then it is critical to be firm. A subtle straightforward denial can help quelling her persistence. However, it is advisable not to wrangle or remain choleric to her insistence.

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Speak the Truth

Last but not the least, speak the truth. An excuse is after all a sugar coated lie. If your lie ever surfaces then it will you with a virulent mark in the relationship. It is advisable to speak the truth and nothing but the pure truth. If the girl is understanding then She will understand your dilemma and shall help move on with her problem.

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